May 8, 2017

Rural Recluse

By In Opinion

 

When I was five years old, I viewed the world through frames of fantasy. I remember travelling with my parents to the Lake District – a national park in Cumbria, northwest England – for a short recluse away from the city which was our home. The suburban beauty of its pure nature affirmed its undeniable charm, and as a young child mesmerised by the simplest of things, many of its traditions compelled me. One particular episode worth noting was a storyteller’s garden I visited in a small village called Grasmere. Families would gather around a fantastical storyteller who would immerse each and every soul present through recounting traditional fairytales. You’d sit on ornate wooden chairs and feel at complete ease surrounded by torches and braziers, which only served to amplify the tales told before you. It was a mesmeric experience to my youthful, dreaming self – I felt part of a world far from reality. Maybe that’s a reason I grew to study and love literature – I always enjoyed the feeling of escaping to an alternative world.

With this little trip occurring in 2001 – just a year into the new millennium – activities like this were the foremost form of escape for a lot of children, including myself. Now, seventeen years later, the same idea stands. But I don’t think experiences like this are as groundbreaking due to the constant advancements taking place. As opposed to the metaphorical frame of fantasy that I viewed the world through, the frame for children is now more commonly physical – it comes in the form of a screen. Our cultural landscape has shifted rapidly in the past ten years, and now it’s supposedly the ‘norm’ to see five year olds walking around with smartphones in their hands, immersed in a virtual world as opposed to just innocently imagining it in their minds. I recently embarked on a five day trip to the Lake District with my parents, back to that rural fantasy my five year old self was so dazzled by. I haven’t been back for years, so I was shocked to return and see how small it really was. I visited the the storyteller’s garden and this place which was once the vastest fairytale forest of my dreams was, in actuality, one of the tiniest spaces I’ve encountered. Seeing it was a little sad, and it made me realise that growing up is a funny thing, especially for people of my generation today. We’ve experienced a childhood deeply satisfied by hearing stories, playing games, being creative. Yet our teenage years of maturing subsequently aligned with the quick development of technology, and the growing phenomenon of social media. Our young selves constructed dreams and fantasies solely in our minds, but today, these fantasies are much more real. They can be visually understood or related through a technological device, something our former youthful selves could only have dreamed of, never fully expecting it to embrace it as a reality. But now it is. Alongside the currently advanced five year olds, we’re consumed by this virtual reality. I didn’t really realise the extent to which it has taken over until I recently spent a few days in this pastoral setting without it.
Arriving to the Lake District and discovering those two tiny troubling words in the corner of my phone: No Service, lead to me asking: ‘Okay. What’s the Wifi?’. Embarrassing, I know. But it’s a question a lot of people today would ask, because it’s something which we can constantly call upon at our fingertips and immerse ourselves in as though its as real as the ground we walk upon. To my surprise, there was no Wifi either. The sudden realisation that I was to be without this for five days was, truthfully, a little unsettling. Why? Because lacking connection to this impalpable world makes you feel quite literally disconnected from reality. That’s the thing about the virtual world – we’ve got to this point where having no ‘connection’ makes us question the reality we’re in. The dividing wall between social media and social reality is rapidly falling, ten bricks at a time. Seeing your friends’ Instagram post from a restaurant is something you ‘like’ as though you’ve experienced it with them. But in reality, the more and more people share every minute of their day on a technological device, the nature of social human etiquette erodes. Take this example of a restaurant. Entering a restaurant today can, more often than not, be like entering a parallel world where emotions serve no value. On one table, a couple are on a date, each holding a glass of wine in one hand, their smartphone in another. Yes, they’re talking – just to the virtual world instead of to each other. Throughout the rest of the setting, people are quite literally under the control of their phones as they aim them high above their heads to get that perfect shot of the meal positioned in front of them. Arms in air, smartphone devices in hand, reality declines as this unreality retains control. And as the phone dangles high in hand, so too does the stability of distinguishing your public life to your private life.
I think that’s the main problem with technology and media – we’re so compelled to share as much as possible of our day that we’re doing things for the sake of how they’ll make us look to others as opposed to actually experiencing them. There’s that cliched question girls joke about: ‘If I haven’t Instagrammed it, did it really happen?’ But are they really joking about it? Obviously it did happen, but people are so under the influence of social media that most would initially find themselves answering ‘no’ to this question. Of course, I love technology and social media – my growing up has accurately aligned with its rapid development. Virtual reality is a place for me to externalise some thoughts and show creativity, and for that I will always enjoy being a part of it. It definitely represents a certain chunk of my life, but that’s my point exactly: it’s only certain chunks as opposed to absolutely everything. I think it’s important to share just a chunk of your life with people, to distinguish between what is real and what is not. It was rather refreshing for me to experience just the one reality for a few days – the reality that didn’t involve my small but steering smartphone. So from initially feeling unsettled at the thought of disconnecting myself from this virtual reality, I instead found it to be liberating. It’s refreshing to understand the value of emotional expression, without clicking a button on your Facebook status to let your friends know whether you’re happy or sad. That’s just a standardisation. It’s fun to share parts of your week with people, but endlessly seeking for something to be shared is only sure to diminish the value of the events that make up your day.

 

So the shots that accompany this post are snapshots from my short trip. I took my camera out with me for one afternoon for my parents to take these shots, and I wanted to share them because that’s what this wonderful thing called the internet is for. It’s a place to share a chunk of your life. But not all of your life. There were many, many more images from my trip, just not stored on my camera roll. I mentioned growing up earlier, and it’s strange because growing up in my generation was like transitioning from one world to another. But the same idea of maturity stands – for me, growing up is about accepting and enjoying your independence. Independence, after all, will forever be just your own company. It’s not something that should always be displayed for everyone to see. Some experiences are just to be shared with ourselves.

Faye .x

 

Trench Coat: Portobello Road Market
 
Jumper: Rockit Vintage, London
 
Jeans: Blitz Vintage, London
 
Boots: Topshop
 
Necklace: Topshop
 
Watch: Kartel
 
 
 
~ x ~
35 Comments
  1. Kathrine Eldridge May 9, 2017

    I adore this chic black/white look! So sleek and cool. They layered necklaces are a nice touch.

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  2. Nataliefashion97 May 9, 2017

    You look awesome. The background is great. I love spring flowers. I have a similar photo on my blog. Check out my blog anf follow 😉
    NATALIEFASHION97

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  3. Violette Daily May 9, 2017

    These photos are beautiful!

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  4. kileen valenzuela May 9, 2017

    you have the most beautiful hair and eyes! love the layered necklaces!

    kileen
    cute & little

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  5. Samantha Metell May 9, 2017

    Love how you do your images, so pretty and different!

    Samantha
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  6. Isabelle May 9, 2017

    I love these photos, and such a stylish and chic outfit!

    Hugs Bella, http://nouw.com/bellss // Instagram: bellaskoog

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  7. Esther Santer May 9, 2017

    Such gorgeous photos!

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  8. Straight A Style May 9, 2017

    Love your black and white outfit. Beautiful photos.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

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  9. Francheska Irizarry May 9, 2017

    I use to have that same hairstyle 🙂
    Love the lovely pictures.
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  10. Nistha Saraf May 10, 2017

    Such a Gorgeous look Faye!! You are looking awesomely amazing. I love that top a lot
    Love
    Nistha
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  11. Jennifer Lane May 10, 2017

    You look lovely! Beautiful photos!

    xo, Jennifer
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  12. Jalisa Giron May 11, 2017

    You make a lot of valid points, girl. Our society has changed immensely in the past few years and in many ways for the better, yet at the same time, for the worst, in my opinion. Time spent with loved ones is no longer valued, as social media and technology has taken its place and when they do come together, there's the constant distraction of keeping up and reporting your every movement on a device, as you've noted with that couple at the restaurant. As a mother to be, I can't say that I don't get concerned about the fact that my daughter will not grow up in the same environment, culture, and society that I did. Playing outside until dusk and making up games to kill time is no longer a common practice amongst neighborhood kids, that's if you even see them outside playing at all. It's really sad when you think about it because that means creative minds aren't being stimulated rather dictated, which is more than sad, it's alarming. Anyway, thanks for bringing up such a great topic and discussion, one that I take interest in. I hope you're having a wonderful day, you look absolutely gorgeous in these photos as always!

    XO,

    Jalisa
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  13. Mercy F May 12, 2017

    These are beautiful photos and you look really lovely in black and white with overhanging pink flowers. I agree, millennials tend to overshare in social media which I am guilty of too but I tried to lessen my posts in Instagram into every 2 days only and my facebook twice a week and merely to promote my blog. There's a lot to do in the real world so I try to keep it balanced. Though, I think what I'm doing is still too much 🙂 Great post, totally can relate!

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  14. KateEmma May 16, 2017

    You look fantastic! Its so good to switch off and reconnect with the world. This was a lovely post!
    Kate x
    themakeupartistschoice.com

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  15. Alas de Angel May 17, 2017

    Beautiful pics, nice place 🙂
    Kisses!

    Alas de Angel
    My Instagram

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  16. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you so much Kathrine, so glad you like the look! Have a wonderful day .x

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  17. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you very much Natalie – of course! .x

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  18. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you Violette! .x

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  19. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Ah that's so kind of you Kileen – thank you! .x

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  20. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Ah thanks so much Samantha, trying a different approach so I appreciate that! .x

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  21. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thanks Bella! .x

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  22. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    So glad you like them Esther! .x

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  23. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you very much Amy Ann! .xx

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  24. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Ahh thanks so much Jennifer! Have a lovely day .xx

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  25. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Haha thank you lovely – glad you like them .x

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  26. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you so much Nistha – so glad you like the look! .xx

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  27. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you!

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  28. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you so much for your comment Jalisa! I'm happy that you enjoyed the writing and agree with the points I've made. It's great to hear another opinion on the subject! Thanks so much for visiting, have a wonderful day .xx

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  29. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you so much for your comment lovely! It's great to hear your opinions on the topic, I've tried to lessen mine a little lately too! Have a wonderful day .xx

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  30. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you lovely!

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  31. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Ah thank you very much Kate, I'm glad you enjoyed it! .x

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  32. Faye Fearon May 17, 2017

    Thank you lovely! .x

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  33. Melina Alt May 17, 2017

    Such a lovely Look ♥ You look so beautiful!
    Best wishes, Melina
    http://www.melinaalt.de

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